“He just met her… She’s supposed to be his transitional person; she’s not supposed to be the ONE. All this time I thought he didn’t want to get married. But, the truth is, he didn’t want to marry me.” Meg Ryan’s line from When Harry Met Sally speaks for many …
Many times when I try to help a client or friend see that their relationship is not good for them, their response is that all relationships have problems. Their view is that someone else will just bring another set of difficulties or even the same ones. So they might as …
If you do an Internet search for “How to Get Your Ex Back” you’ll find pages of videos, downloadable answers (for a price), and even a few guarantees from non-accredited individuals who promise they have the solution you so desperately want. But this is a cold hard fact: PEOPLE HAVE …
Question: How do I get rid of the anger I have for past boyfriends who broke my heart? I am particularly angry at the men who said we would get married and without any warning ended the relationship and immediately started dating other women before our relationship was officially over, …
You had an amazing connection, the passion was unbelievable, you had never had a relationship feel so good—then one day something unexpectedly changed, he or she was detached, unloving, and it was never again the same. Perhaps it ended abruptly (if you were lucky) or maybe it dragged on for …
Finding the love of your life is an incredible high, especially if on some level you view him or her as above your typical dating league. So naturally, when it doesn’t work out, or worse, it suddenly ends without warning, it feels hard to go on alone. It may feel …
It’s abusive if your partner criticizes things you say, how you do things, or what you look like. That may sound obvious, but if he’s disguising it as humor, it’s harder to recognize—and to stop. If you do rebut his
Loneliness – that feeling that comes when you’re alone and don’t want to be. The yearning to share your heart and life and body with another is the most human and natural of desires. But if it’s gnawing at you day and night it can be one of the most …
Most of my clients ask me how long it takes to get over a breakup. Well, it’s different for everyone. It usually depends on the length and the quality of the relationship, and most importantly, your willingness to let go. The longer the relationship the harder is to adjust to …
The best thing you can do to make yourself feel better and to build your self-esteem is to just let go after a breakup. I promise you, all my clients that cut all contact with their ex feel so much better about themselves than the ones who bombarded their ex …
People do what they want to do. If you always remind yourself of that, it really is quite simple. As caring beings, we usually like to give people the benefit of the doubt. We frequently conjure up pleasant scenarios to explain away undesirable behavior: “he’s really busy at work,” “she’s
Just because you have the ability to do something doesn’t mean you should do it. Just because you can send a message immediately doesn’t mean you deserve an immediate response. You need to know when not to text at all. Electronic communication has changed relationships—and not for the better. For …
What makes it so hard to recognize a commitmentphobic and even comprehend at first is that most people, both men and women, who say they’re looking for commitment or marriage are actually doing just that. Most of them want to be in a loving relationship with all of their heart, …
Finding a happy relationship is not really about what you look like. Or what a man or woman thinks of you. It’s not about what he or she wants, or likes or does. It’s all about you! It’s about what you think. What you feel. And what you choose. It’s …
