Want Your Ex Back?—Think Again

Feeling heartbroken over your ex and convinced they were "the one"? You may be holding onto a painful illusion.  I can help you stop focusing on things you can't control and become your best self. Decide you want to stop living in limbo and focus on taking your power back.

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Peter Cuoco
13 August 2025
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Donna took my call and work with me closely to help advise me on the state of my relationship and give ideas on how I could possibly fix it.
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Sharon Lundholm-Nielson
17 April 2024
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Donna is an excellent coach. She has wisdom and empathy, as well as the education and experience to back it all up. Highly recommend!
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Jordan a
5 April 2024
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I have known Donna Barnes now for 3 years as a coach and she has been such a valuable resource and listening ear in terms of developing how I approach and overcome different challenges in my life and long term relationship. She is such a compassionate person and is very attentive and supportive in helping me progress well. I value highly her wealth of advice which has enabled me to enrich and make the foundation to my long term relationship and general life goals stronger. Thank you so much Donna!
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Brian M
22 April 2023
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An Easy Testimonial To Write! Donna is a true pro. When I met Donna last year and enlisted her help in my own dating journey, I felt like I struck gold. Donna took the time to get to know me and my unique dating and relationships goals. We worked collaboratively to make a plan. I felt like I found a coach, advocate, and a friend. I would gladly recommend Donna to anyone looking for insight and guidance in any aspect of their dating life.
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Alice Moore
9 November 2021
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Donna is amazing! She’s so supportive and offers sound advice. She listens so well and doesn’t judge you at all. I highly recommend her!
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brad heidorn
25 June 2021
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I been watching Donna's videos, and also spoken with her on the phone. I felt like she gave the most honest and real answers of all the relationship coaches that I have listen to, and talk with. I would recommend to anyone going thru a breakup to listen to her. Her advise is real!! Thank you
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Kim
23 June 2021
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Donna is an excellent, insightful life and relationship coach. She guided me through personal and professional obstacles including heartbreak and a career change. I have worked with her now for many years. What makes Donna unique is that she has so many life examples from her own experiences as well as long time client experiences that she can help relate too. She is also a wealth of resources, from tools to working through anxiety to healthy processes to overcome heartache. Un-judgmental and supportive, she uses a plethora of knowledge to work with you to achieve your goals. You leave your sessions feeling like you can or have accomplished overcoming whatever issue you brought to that session. Her guidance has proven priceless over and over.
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Paul D
2 June 2021
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I reached out to Donna after a tough break up with my girlfriend last summer. I think I hit her with some heavy, dark stuff in our very first session but she didn’t even flinch! I immediately felt hopeful “here’s someone who has heard it all..! maybe she can actually help me!?” And she did! Over the ensuing months she was there for me when I needed her; offering advice or just listening to my RANTS! I was feeling hopeless (obsessing and ruminating). Donna was able to help me feel better about myself and actually gave me hope that I would recover and of course get to a place where I could meet someone else. Thank you Donna!!
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D P
2 June 2021
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Change is not the hardest part of the process when it comes to growth and bettering yourself. Realizing what you need to change and understanding how to do it is where real skill is required. Donna takes the time to get to know the real you and has a unique way of making you feel comfortable about looking at yourself through a third person omniscient lens. She helped me realize that I was attracting the wrong people and worked with me to figure out the root issue of why this was happening. Now I can confidently say that, not only my love life but, my personal life has change for the better. Thank you Donna for giving me the tools and confidence to set my ship on the right course to success!!! Dave Queens, NY
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Brian S. (Scott) Manning
19 May 2021
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I came across Donna’s YouTube videos in 2017 while going through issues concerning the breakup of a relationship. I found her videos answered most of my questions, however, I was still seeking answers. I contacted Donna for a couple of coaching sessions and I was amazed by her candor and her friendliness! It truly is like talking to a best friend! Her advice has been relevant, her stories and anecdotes insightful and her willingness to stay connected and available extremely helpful. Four years later, I still have dating questions and go to Donna for answers...and she still remembers my past issues! LOL! I truly recommend Donna for help in all relationship areas - especially where there is doubt a relationship is right for me. Sometimes the best thing to do is “hit the pause button,” remind myself of my value and the goodness of my heart - and consider a breakup!

About me

I'm really good at helping people through breakups. I've actually walked in many of your shoes. I've struggled with abandonment issues and have endured more than my share of loss and heartbreak, even abuse. I fully understand feeling broken and I am tremendously compassionate. 

I've also lived a very charmed and exciting life, filled with love. I have studied psychology, and Neuroplasticity - the brain's ability to change and adapt due to experience. I'm NYU certified, however, I can promise you there has been no better teacher than my personal experiences, mostly because of the dozens of devastating breakups I personally suffered through (and caused) over three decades — knowledge was the only thing that made me feel better, so each and every painful experience further enriched my ability to help you. 

Going through a breakup is not just about getting past losing someone, it's about finding yourself again, and Donna seamlessly glided me through this.

Kristin

Westport, Connecticut

Why You Need My Action Plan

I call my proven coaching method Broken to Brave. This breakup is actually the best thing to happen to you because it will make you stronger. The painful truth is that there is no quick fix to stop hurting from your breakup. You can’t control what your ex does; and if you try, it makes you feel helpless, but shifting your focus to taking care of you makes you feel empowered. Nothing changes if nothing changes, now is your chance to create positive change.

Your Relationship Died

You're in denial now. Probably wanting to bargain with your ex to try again. Maybe a little angry too, feeling depressed. Everyone handles grief in their own way and at their own pace. But I'll be there for you, giving you answers and virtually holding your hand. You will heal when you accept that it is over, at least for now.

Use Your Pain to Grow

While you're asking yourself what's wrong with you that your ex doesn't want you anymore, use this pain to self-evaluate and identify your true self. You'll feel better if you raise your self-esteem and take responsibility for what you do right and wrong in your relationships. Then change your patterns, and set SMART Goals, so you can become the best version of yourself.

Decide You Want Better

I will help you recognize exactly what went wrong with your ex and what would be best for you now. If that does turn out to be your ex, we'll make sure you fix what had broken so this time your relationship can last forever. But more likely, you'll decide you don't want the person who caused you so much pain. You'll want better.

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Fix Your Most Important Relationship

Stop wasting loving energy on your ex and focus your attention on taking great care of you. Your relationship with yourself is the only relationship you have complete control of.

 Take action to truly love yourself and raise your self-esteem, so you can change your pattern and make better choices. Like attracts like, as you get healthier, you'll be attracted to a healthier person...and healthier people will be very attracted to you.

I'll help you get ready to meet someone right for you, who will never want to hurt you.

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more About me

My first real heartbreak came as a teenager when I suddenly lost my Mom. I escaped to New York City with a modeling agency, in the 80s when Manhattan was a pretty wild place. I studied acting/human behavior, then moved to Los Angeles in the 90s, when "Me Too" was accepted as the casting couch. I was pretty selfish and broke a lot of hearts, until I had my heart ripped out at age 30, before "ghosting" was even a term and there was no internet to search for answers.

By 2001, I had gotten so good at dating I was asked to be in a reality show called, "The Real Sex & the City". That lead to co-hosting a talk show about sex & relationships and by the end of that decade I was writing my first magazine column, had been through NYU and was now coaching others. I published my book and became the relationship expert for Good Morning America.

Over 30+ years I’ve tried everything. I can tell you first-hand what does and doesn’t work. I have now coached hundreds of men and women, and LGBTQ2+, since 2007, which makes me uniquely qualified to understand and support you - so you can do it better.

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I'll tell you THE TRUTH about your breakup...

"The only time I feel better is when I'm talking to you!"

Tim

Hoboken, NJ

"Beyond expectations"

"My appointment with you was beyond expectations. Your insight, knowledge and personal experiences combine to offer much more than anyone I've previously met with."

Tony

Lansdale, PA

"Spot on advice"

"No one should feel alone or lost as I initially did during my breakup. Donna was the one who enabled me to feel that I could make it through, and I did, with all of her spot on advice."

Karen

Los Angeles, CA

"Piece of mind is priceless!"

"Donna is an excellent person and personal coach! I suffer from anxiety and as soon as my ex reached out I went into panic mode. Donna was there for me within minutes and I felt instant relief!! Not only did she listen but she knew exactly what to say and do to get the results I needed! Thanks to her not only did I get my ex to chase me and regret the breakup but also helped me realize my worth! Thank you Donna!! YOU ROCK!! "

Maria

Ft. Lauderdale, FL

"This is the best coaching program!"

"Although my experience with a psychiatrist and other counselor were helpful, neither of them were able to show me which options truly existed, and how to make the right decisions. Donna always had the right advice, and as we all know, during a breakup we sometimes can't seem to keep it together. 

Donna made sure I didn't fall apart, she was available when I needed her which is priceless during a breakup (unlike the other counselors), and kept me moving in a positive, healthy, and happy direction."

Lisa - New York, NY

I'll Help You Get Over Your Ex
 without Fear of Being Alone

I look forward to helping you!
We can speak on the phone or over video, however you're most comfortable. 

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Benefit 1

Like attracts like. As you become more confident and feel desirable, you'll be attracted to and attract a healthier partner.  

Benefit 2

Healthy boundaries, effective communication. and self-awareness help your next relationship last forever - your ex or someone new.

Benefit 3

Feeling loved by the person you love makes you feel whole and complete. A supportive partner makes you feel like you can accomplish anything.

100% Confidential

If you’re hurting or simply confused about what to do or think, I offer an unbiased, sympathetic ear to give you insight into what went wrong and help you process what you’re feeling.

Speaking with me even once can help you feel better!

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